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鈥淵eah, I鈥檓 fine thanks.鈥�

We say it so quickly, before the 鈥渉ow are you?鈥� is even vocalised, so often it is just as much a part of our etiquette as mentioning that it is good weather for ducks or saying 鈥渂ye鈥� to each other repeatedly on the phone.

Do we know anything more about the person we are talking to after 鈥測eah, I鈥檓 fine thanks鈥�? I鈥檇 say we know that they are both able to hear us, and that they are able to speak. We may, if we are well attuned, have sussed out whether they come from Sheffield, Manchester, Hassocks or Whitstable. As for anything that will reassure us that they are 鈥淥K鈥�, I鈥檓 not so sure.

A 2022 娛樂城遊戲 Voice of the Veterinary Profession survey revealed that 60% of vets would be able to recognise the signs of mental ill health in a colleague. I would like to make a prediction. The prediction is that within that 60% there would be a disproportionate number of people who don鈥檛 stop at that point. People who take the 鈥測eah, I鈥檓 fine thanks鈥� and turn it into a conversation.

Meaningful conversations

It may not always be appropriate to have a meaningful conversation about how someone is feeling, in which case, a gentle 鈥渁re you sure you are OK?鈥� might be all you can do. If you feel you know the person well enough, then maybe it could become a 鈥渉ow are your children managing through their SATs week? I can imagine it must be hard work for you?鈥� or 鈥淗ow was that meeting with your solicitor? I can imagine that it might have been a difficult one to approach?鈥� So, where do we draw a line with being intrusive? It鈥檚 tricky. The answer will be different for everybody, and on different days for the same person. It鈥檚 OK to back track though 鈥� 鈥淚 do understand that you don鈥檛 want this conversation, I just wanted you to know that I care.鈥�

Other ways to share how you鈥檙e feeling

I鈥檝e taken to pushing the conversation back of late 鈥� not every time, but if it feels appropriate, instead of a 鈥測eah, I鈥檓 OK,鈥� I give a score for the day. Today, for example, has been a solid 8, but yesterday struggled to get above a 3. What these numbers mean is irrelevant, but they usually give people a smile and, I hope, allow them to know a bit more about me than 鈥淥K.鈥�

I would also argue it is OK to be clumsy with this. While you find your way of asking, and your way of disclosing, be confident that the people you are with are so much more likely to value the effort, than criticise the performance.

My thoughts on this are just that, my thoughts. I would love to hear about how others both enquire and share their feelings with others. How we do this matters much less to me than improving on the 60% of us who can recognise a friend, family member or colleague whose insides are screaming out to say more than 鈥淥K鈥�.

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